This pretty much sums up where I think we have gone wrong.
"Lose the idea that you must learn to think like a woman...you do not."
by Robert Pierre
I was compelled to reply to the recent article entitled "Where have all the good men gone?" because for the past few months, I have been asking myself the same question.
I am a man of the tribes of First Peoples (Native American) living on the border between Canada and the US. I work with broken families and focus on guidance and healing for the children. I have been married for 21-years and have a son and daughter.
In all my travels, I have realized one thing: Men are no longer 'real men' in the sense that they "no longer walk 'Upright'.
Most men I meet are weak, spineless 'pussy whipped' girlie men or 'men' who walk around being 'loud and thrusting their chests.
Upright men do not 'whine his feelings' when being corrected for distortions in his thinking or actions. He says; "Yes maybe you are right, I will be more aware in the future".
A man understands that the measure of a good lover is not how many women he makes love to, but how well he makes love with 'The One Woman'.
A man does not always need to thrust his chest and posture, in order to maintain his ego. A real man is content in his self knowing.
A man knows that the Creator gave us two ears and one mouth for a reason. That being, so men and women will listen to each other, twice as much as we speak.
A man will always walk 'upright', in the eyes of his woman and children if he is taught to respect their right to a happy life, as much as his own.
A man does not rely on other men, and their propaganda, to define who he is.
A man is self sufficient, and does not need to rely on the handouts of his 'masters', in order for his family to survive; and he contributes to his community.
A man will take an afternoon off work to be with his kids, and teach them to be as 'upright men', even if they are girls. period.
Upright men must be agile and fast of foot; to defend his family in times of trouble, and to do his daily dance.
These are just a few examples, but i think you get the thrust of it.
It is about balance I believe. The media has so twisted this western society that men believe woman will like them if they are cruel (woman like bad boys - those stupid bitches get what they asked for) or rich (often, the same thing).
And men are taught to pursue woman who are loose with their gifts (whoring is good - dumb bastards get what they deserve; right Tiger?).
This is the 'truth' of what the media teaches, from where i sit. In our remote northern communities, we had no 'cable TV' until the early 1990's. Within one year of introducing this crap into our communities child suicide rates trippled and crime rose dramatically.
So some communities have now begun 'monitoring' what is broadcast and now block web content, for the benefit of our families. These children saw those fancy cars , beautiful men and woman, riches beyond compare and then compared that to the reality of their existence, and became confused or 'lost'. We are still working to find some of them.
Maybe all 'men' in the West need to do the same.
Lose the idea that you must learn to think like a woman...you do not. Start to think like an 'Upright' man who 'honors' both feminine and masculine, and works to balance those gifts within himself first, and through empathy.
Teach the boys to respect themselves and others, as they wish to be respected; and so they and you, will be. Teach boys to listen and learn, before speaking, and teach them how to fish and hunt for crying out loud.
As opposed to teaching them to go shopping, or teaching them that men 'do' wear dresses (most do not, except on tv). Teach your son's and daughters to effectively 'defend' against 'bullies'; then say "so what" if they get expelled from school for defending themselves. They have gained 'so much more' from you; and the 'bullies' are presented with an opportunity for positive change, as well.
Teach girls that they carry many gifts given to them by the Creator, and that these gifts need to be respected; that through the healthy maintenance of these gifts, they are as powerful as the strongest man on earth. I will comment on feminism only so much as to say that this 'concept' (like any other thing in this world), when taken to an 'extreme', only serves to create imbalances in our 'circles' of self, partner, family and community. Such is the nature of taking anything to an extreme i suppose; the male dominated worlds of business and politics are good examples of this idea, and most relevant today.
Now some may say that honor, empathy and humility are just different words for 'weakness'. We say, the belief systems behind these words have allowed our peoples' to survive genocide, and now we are 'so strong in spirit' that many fear our truths'. I am not saying, 'return to the old ways'. I am suggesting that, "surely, there must be a middle ground". Like the truth about 'all' men these days.
In these days of the 'world turning over' what will you do?, you men! When the going gets tough, will you run to find a nipple suckle?, or will you once and for all...stand up.
Be well brothers and sisters. To any i may have offended and who might point fingers; i would say "remember, when you point at others, there are three fingers pointing right back at you". (try it :) I did so, before writing this.
If i offended any in the telling of these 'truths'', so be it.
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